Breakups are one of the most under-recognized sufferings in our culture, which is a travesty. If you are going through a breakup, the pain you are feeling is very valid. Because we live in a culture that minimizes the suffering of breakups (“just get over it...there are other fish in the sea...stop being so dramatic, put down those chocolates, and get off the couch…”), we often don’t take the time to fully grieve and process breakups. The end of a relationship can be a tremendous opportunity to get close to the heart of Jesus and form yourself more fully into the person that you want to be for your future vocation.

 

Just a thought for you: a successful relationship is one in which both parties can confidently answer the question “is this person my spouse?”...even if the answer to the question is, "no." So, with this definition in mind, we view relationships that end in breakups as successful discernments.

 

Below are some tips that you can use if you find your relationship going through a break or a breakup. We hope they will help lead you to the heart of Christ from Whom all peace and healing flows.